As a palliative care doctor, it is my job to sit with patients and imagine death, the distant reality that we would rather ignore. After warning a heavy conversation is forthcoming, I ask, “Have you thought about how you would want your care to look like if time were short?” The responses to questions about end-of-life care are as varied as they are familiar. “Keep me comfortable.” “I don’t want to be a burden to my children.” “If I can’t recognize my wife, let me go Doc.” Through statements like these, I learn which treatments are most appropriate for my patients on a personal level. It is my goal, after all, to make sure the care that my patients receive matches the care that they would want.

Palliative care focuses on quality of life for patients dealing with serious illness. Therefore, these conversations have become second nature to me. As precise as a surgeon is with her scalpel, I tactfully employ a combination of words and silence to explore my patients’ thoughts about transitions from health to illness, from home to hospital, from life to death. I temper my approach delicately over several visits — as the maxim reads, “Death, like the sun, cannot be looked at steadily.” This is possible with conditions such as cancer or dementia, where life expectancy can be months or even years. During the time of COVID-19, however, we may not have that sort of time.

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