At any time, at any place, we can be plucked from this mortal coil by circumstances completely beyond our control. It happens all the time, and we are particularly aware of it in the news business. Tragedy is all around, yet, still the exception.
But the death of 4-year-old Ayden Fang on Donnelly Avenue in Burlingame Aug. 8 hit particularly hard. What we do know for sure is that he was on a sidewalk in front of a restaurant when he was hit by a crossover SUV whose driver, a 19-year-old San Mateo woman, accelerated into the facade. A 6-year-old girl was also hit but was treated at Stanford Hospital. We don’t know what caused the vehicle to accelerate, but we do know from the police report that it entered into the right-of-way and was struck in the side by a Class 2, two-person e-bike with an 11-year-old boy and a 10-year-old girl on it. They were riding the bike legally and in accordance with traffic laws. There has been no official determination of fault as of yet.
But there has been plenty of discussion about what can be done, what should have been done and how tragic it is.
For me, the tragedy centers around Ayden because he was taken too soon, and anyone with kids, young siblings or friends with kids or young siblings knows how hard it must be for the family. Our thoughts should remain with them, and we should offer support as a community. This is an unimaginable situation, one we fear and know could happen to any of us.
Because of that, it strikes at our inner core and we seek meaning and action. We long for a place where our children are safe, and we can keep them safe. And many of us seek to place blame. Our human urge is to discover fault and to seek justice, to seek change, to seek a better us, a better community, a better tomorrow. We don’t want this to happen again, and it’s natural to want someone to take the blame or pay for this tragedy.
Some find solace in faith or comfort in talking about it with others. Still others fall back on their own philosophies or political views. It is in situations like this when conversations can turn ugly and unproductive, because people have different points of view.
Because an e-bike was involved, those who have seen even one instance of someone riding irresponsibly may want to point to it. Because a driver was involved, those who have seen instances of distracted or irresponsible driving may point to it. There are irresponsible e-bike riders, and perhaps there could be enforcement of laws or new laws regarding them especially as they pertain to young riders. There are irresponsible drivers, and there could be more enforcement of our rules of the road. But most riders and drivers are responsible. As far as what happened Aug. 8, we can only guess, and fill in the blanks with our own perspective and experience. We just don’t know the details.
Many of us like to think we live in a suburban paradise, where we are free to enjoy life on our own terms. And in most cases, that’s true. But this area is changing. There are more people, more forms of travel, more distractions and more potential for harm.
And this is how it returns to two places.
First, we should think of Ayden’s family, we should think of the 19-year-old, the two children on the e-bike, and any witness. This was simply awful for each and every one of them.
Second, we should focus on ourselves and resist the urge to pursue blame and others. Police are professionals and are handling this professionally in an investigation based in facts.
There is simply no evidence otherwise. Tragedies are difficult, and it’s easy to make it about ourselves and our beliefs, our families, our ideas and our causes. Let’s not make it worse by saying or typing something you’ll regret. If you find yourself getting heated in a conversation, stop and take it down a notch.
There will be a time in which we can collectively seek ways to further create safe spaces and new rules for the different ways we travel and interact in our increasingly crowded Peninsula, and let’s get there soon in a responsible, civil and mature way.
For now, be safe, talk to others including your children about being safe, be kind and think of Ayden, his family and everyone involved. Have mercy and grace.
There will be a candlelight vigil to honor Ayden 7:30 p.m. Sunday, Aug. 24, at the Donnelly Street parking lot.
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I grew up skating that entire parking lot in the 90s - the only people getting into accidents there are people who are in a hurry or who are not from there and are driving out the gate way too fast. Who has ever heard had a reaction to getting hit in car - by jamming their foot on the gas pedal? In my experience - I have froze up and done the opposite. So in my business complex there is a sign that blocks the sidewalk on the right side when you are exiting the driveway - a couple months ago a driver from the business next door crashed into a guy on a scooter while trying to merge into the street. You know what happened? The driver was arrested and charged within a day. Because I gave the footage to the police on my camera. The law is on the driver to watch the sidewalk - they ALWAYS have the right of way. Why is everyone acting like a 19 year old is a child? This is an adult. Why hasn't she been identified? Why is she being protected? This is exactly why I avoid any liberal dirtball enclave like Burlingame - because even when a reckless 19 year old kills a 4 year old kid - because im sure she is in a protected class - her picture does not get shown - her name does not get released - she gets more respect than the dead kid. Disgusting. Like others have said - if it was me who killed that kid (a white/jewish guy) - I would be on all the news stations and paraded around the police precinct. Protect yourselves everyone - because like ive said time and time again - the losers at San Mateo County are not going to protect you. In fact - they will blame you for your own plight. Sound like Satan?
Culled and fact checked from DMV and Law Enforcement Manuals
Dangerous activity by children from the ages of 7 to 40, enabled, and encouraged, by well-meaning but possibly unaware parents. The
source of this hazard: e-bikes, gas bikes, old fashion bicycles, segues, skateboards, old fashion scooters, flexi etc.
There are some basic facts overlooked or never taught:
1). Any vehicles, motorized or not, need to be operated with care; an e-bike is a vehicle, not a toy;
2). A bicycle or a pedestrian will always lose the battle against a car, truck or other motor vehicle; and
3). Children, like adults, may have good intentions, but may make unsafe and hazardous decisions detrimental to their own health and
the health of others.
Putting it simply, e-bikes can be a hazard to our children and anyone on the road. Frequently we see children break basic traffic laws on
their e-bikes, riding their e-bikes in areas where they should not be, blowing through stop signs without stopping, carrying passengers
when it is not allowed, traveling at speeds that are faster than the traffic conditions permit, not wearing helmets and not adhering to
basic traffic laws. This could be lack of training, maturity or both.
Children / Students, must know the laws surrounding e-bikes and the different classes under state law.
• Class 1 e-bikes are distinguished as a pedal-assisted electric bicycle with a motor which assists the rider while peddling to reach speeds
of 20 mph.
• Class 2 e-bikes have a motor used exclusively to propel the bicycle and ceasing assistance when a speed of 20 MPH is reached.
• Class 3 e-bikes, on the other hand, are pedal-assisted electric bicycles equipped with a speedometer and a motor that provides
assistance only when the rider is pedaling, and ceases to provide assistance when a speed of 28 mph is reached.
Different classes of e-bikes come with different sets of rules. That is why, if you purchase an e-bike for your child-student, you need to be
mindful of reviewing the label listing to determine its classification number, top assisted speed and wattage.
Also, you need to make sure that their e-bike is street legal and rated for street use since there are many e-bikes on the market that are
off-road bikes and not meant for road travel.
There are additional restrictions:
Class 1 and Class 2 e-bikes do not have age restrictions but, like a regular bicycle, an e-bike operator (a term that hints at the skill
required to ride an e-bike) under the age of 18, must wear a helmet.
Class 3 e-bikes have additional restrictions for operators, who must:
1). Be 16 years old or older;
2). Must wear a bicycle helmet regardless of age;
3). Must not transport passengers; and
4). May ride in a bicycle lane if authorized to do so by a local ordinance.
Lastly, e-bikes are considered bicycles, which means they are allowed in bike lanes, not sidewalks, not private property that doesn’t
belong to ‘them’ - and — if traveling with the flow of traffic — may also ride on the road.
E-bikes are generally prohibited in places like equestrian or hiking and recreational trails, so be aware of where your children-students,
may be taking their e-bike.
And, just like regular bicycles, depending on the local city ordinance, there are prohibitions on riding a bicycle and an e-bike on
sidewalks.
E-bike operators are expected to follow all the rules of the road. That is why it is unsettling to see young e-bike operators ignoring basic
traffic laws, like NOT coming to a complete stop at a stop sign.
As parents, neighbors and citizens of the Peninsula, it is our obligation to make sure our children are educated on the proper use of e-
bikes.
There also needs to be accountability for both parent and child if a child does not, at a basic level, follow the rules of the road. Please take
steps to ensure that your child is safe while riding his or her e-bike, for their safety and for the peace of mind of everyone in our
community.
The kids on the bicycle did absolutely nothing wrong - blaming them is weak and MUST be called out.
The law is pretty clear on this one:
Drivers MUST look out for children - the principal is called "Duty of Care" and it is deeply ingrained within law and vehicle codes around the country. By refusing to provide Safe-Routes-To-School and stopping traffic education at schools, city councils and school districts have taken on that responsibility.
Anything going wrong the city council MUST be blamed, so MUST the school district. They are violating their "Duty of Care" towards these children.
Kids don't have driver's licenses, but adult motorists must.
With that driver's license comes the responsibility towards protecting the weak and vulnerable.
Anyone trying to weasel their way out of it by threatening physicality and literally throwing their immensely wasteful weight around is by definition of the DMV and law enforcement a "Scofflaw".
That is the law. Those are the rules. Or is this not a law-and-order country anymore?
PS.: And btw. they don't call it "California STOP" because Californians are so great at following STOP sign laws.
As a community, we MUST do better by our children than just offer the typical "Thoughts and Prayers".
The last time Burlingame offered "Thoughts and Prayers" - in the case of Arlene OÇampo - Donna Colson only offered a policy of "Incremental Progress" and then didn't suggested to go backwards.
This time she just blamed innocent children on a bicycle.
This would not have happened, if the street had bike lanes and was "daylighted", which is what the law and common sense would suggest now for a parking lot exit.
Thank you Jon for mentioning at least that the children on a bicycle were victims and not the culprit council member Donna Colson, City of Burlingame, the Police, and Social Media made them out to be.
That was a despicable performance by the leadership of Burlingame, which is why this is not the time of "thoughts and prayers".
The blame is clearly with Burlingame, the police, and a reckless driver. There is no DMV tester in the world who wouldn't call it "reckless" if your drive ends up in a restaurant.
A city that wants pedestrians, bicycles, and cars to "Share The Road" to make money from on-street parking instead of providing real safety is always at fault when things like this go predictably wrong.
That has to be acknowledged and we should not try to sweep it under the rug with "thoughts and prayers". Actions by the city would speak louder than words.
Prayers and action are not mutually exclusive.
sure, but where did Jon or SMDaily demand action from the City of Burlingame and its police force?
So far only the commenters rose to the occasion, San Mateo County establishment went into hiding.
You might remember a few weeks back, Berman, Becker, Mueller got phone calls from some speeders coming back from a car show in HMB. I'm not even sure how you can hydroplane going uphill, but somehow the speeders managed. No fatalities reported, but Berman, Becker, Mueller immediately went into action demanding engineering solutions from Caltrans.
Hwy 92 is within the jurisdiction of Caltrans and Sacramento. Burlingame however is their responsibility.
So in this case - where we have real injuries and fatalities in their jurisdiction - no word from Becker, Mueller, Mullin, Papan, Speier, Berman, anyone. No word from Mayor Stevenson "the buck stops here". No apology from Donna Colson for her policy of "incremental process" and blaming children.
The moral of this story is, that Berman, Becker, Mueller were there for the speeders and when they weren't really in charge. But all went missing when they are in charge and their job would be to protect vulnerable children.
So when is the action coming?
easygerd - these fatalities are just not part of their political agenda. There just does not seem to be enough outrage by their constituents to elicit a reaction. Shame on all of us for electing these cavalier types time and time again. They make a mockery of the term 'representative'.
Jon - I am probably going against the grain but I am not sure about this vigil and what it will do for the bereaved parents. What is frustrating about these preventable "accidents" is that we read about them but that there is never any follow up about the perpetrators and any related action by the authorities. We are still in the dark about the person who killed the young mother on the HWY 92 overpass, and we still don't know what happened with the 19 year old driver. Were either driver licenses suspended and their vehicles impounded? It seems these horrific tragedies are swept under the rug under the guise of police investigation. I believe that the public is entitled to disclosure. As a parent or husband besides being devasted, I would be seething at the lack of timely accountability.
100% agree.
Great article on how the State of California fails to keep dangerous drivers off our streets: https://calmatters.org/investigation/2025/04/license-to-kill/
Thank you for your column today Jon. I was having dinner outside on a lovely Friday night a block away when the accident occurred. I have thought about Ayden and his family daily since then. I am tired of so many using this terrible tragedy to push their pet issues.
For many people in the community, preventing future tragedies is not a "pet issue." It is a valid and productive response to their personal experience in the wake of the rising tide of traffic violence on our streets.
Thank you. A driver killed a four-year old whose only fault was standing on a sidewalk near the exit of a parking lot. The driver should be held accountable for his death.
I share in your grief for a child lost way too soon, and others that were injured or impacted mentally as a result of this crash. Visibility exiting the garage on Donnelly is very poor, with cars parked right up to where cars are exiting. The gift of sight is a game changer for safety. With daylighting, the driver could have seen the bicyclist, who was traveling legally in the right of way. This concept is called daylighting, and is a state law (AB413) to increase pedestrian and bicycle safety. Daylighting is a cost-effective safety strategy at crosswalks, intersections, and at entrances/exits like this one. Let's make some changes. Additionally calling the bicyclist an e-biker, is like calling a driver a truck driver. The e-bike is limited at 20mph, which is a normal speed for non e-bikes, to me the distinction is irrelevant. Thinking of Ayden's family and all of those impacted by the driver who struck and killed a child who was just trying to enjoy an evening out with family.
As always, thanks for the good sense, Jon.
In our money focused and litigious society (particularly in California) we tend to emphasize blame in order to shift the cost, both emotionally and financially. But even the police and the courts seem for forget the basic definition of "accident", which assigns blame only to the fates, and there are plenty of accidents for which no one in particular was negligent or intentional in causing harm: ac·ci·dent
/ˈaksədnt/
noun
1.
an unfortunate incident that happens unexpectedly and unintentionally, typically resulting in damage or injury.
"he had an accident at the factory"
Similar:
mishap
misfortune
misadventure
mischance
unfortunate incident
injury
disaster
tragedy
catastrophe
contretemps
calamity
blow
trouble
problem
difficulty
casualty
2.
an event that happens by chance or that is without apparent or deliberate cause.
"the pregnancy was an accident"
BPD has not claimed this was an "accident" and we shouldn't either. You point out that accidents are "unexpected". Per the article, we don't have all the facts to know whether this was unexpected. IF the driver drove onto the sidewalk without cause, then the result is not unexpected. IF the street is designed poorly, crashes are not unexpected.
Furthermore, when it comes to vehicular crashes, safety advocates note that "accidents" apply to 'acts of god,' e.g., you are driving and a tree falls on your vehicle. Google AI: "Yes, accidents can apply to 'acts of god' when the accident is caused by a natural, unavoidable, and unforeseeable event, such as a tornado or landslide that is beyond human control and intervention. For this defense to apply, the natural event must have been the sole cause of the accident, with no human negligence contributing to it." That said, the CDC includes "motor vehicle traffic deaths" in its "Accidents or Unintentional Injuries" category, along with deaths by falls and 'poisoning,' which includes drug overdoses. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/accidental-injury.htm
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