I was raised to always think of others, whether it be holding a door open for another person, giving of one’s time and funds to help those in need, or voting in favor of programs that help the less fortunate. Naively, perhaps, I assumed that a majority of us were raised in a similar fashion. But as I’ve come to realize, either that wasn’t the case, or else somewhere along the line many people abandoned the values they were brought up with and shifted their focus from “we” to “me.”
My own upbringing, at least, has stuck with me. If anything, the values I was raised with have deepened over the years, thanks in large part to the good example set by my parents, who in the second half of their lives made philanthropy an ever-increasing part of who they were.
Here in the Bay Area, our already high housing costs, coupled with inflation, are making it harder and harder for people to live, even for some who own their homes. Having seen the conditions in which some of our fellow residents live today, the phrase “there but for the grace of God go I” has taken on new relevance. In response, my wife and I have done what we can to help out, for instance by working through Rebuilding Together Peninsula to repair, repaint and replant the homes and yards of homeowners living in difficult circumstances.
For the last eight years we’ve been combating food insecurity by delivering nutritionally balanced meals to a variety of people in and around Redwood City as part of Peninsula Volunteers’ Meals on Wheels program. And in years past we’ve sorted donated food at our local Second Harvest Food Bank. Plus, we’ve made regular donations to these worthy organizations and to other similar ones that, for one reason or another, we cannot assist more directly.
Because we’re all human, we all have our own priorities. Thus, we’ll never fully agree on the best way to deploy our funds and our efforts. Fortunately, however, we don’t have to. There are a seemingly infinite number of charitable and service organizations to choose from working to meet almost every need. And if they aren’t enough — if we find a need that still isn’t being met — we can start a new one, as did two people when creating the Magical Bridge Foundation.
That foundation came into being after a Bay Area mother with two daughters, one disabled, came to realize that although there are playgrounds designed specifically for the disabled, we lack ones where people of differing ages and abilities could come together and play. That realization resulted in the creation of the Magical Bridge Playground in Palo Alto and, shortly thereafter, the creation of a foundation to create more.
When I learned that Redwood City was on track to become the home of the second Magical Bridge Playground, I paid a couple of visits to the one in Palo Alto to see it in action, did some online research, and then attended one of the in-person presentations on the Redwood City project. All of that resulted in my wife and I contributing to the project — even though our own kids were already grown and gone.
I can sympathize with those who are fed up with humanity. While I’ll point out that there remain a lot of good people who could use a helping hand, I will also note that there are plenty of worthy organizations that focus on our animal populations and on our environment instead. My wife and I discovered one such organization some 40 years ago, while exploring the Bay Area as part of our honeymoon. After crossing the Golden Gate Bridge, we came across The Marine Mammal Center, which back then was a tiny organization whose primary aim was to rehabilitate ailing seals and sea lions. We gave them $20 on that first visit, the first of many ever-increasing donations to help the center grow into what it is today: the world’s largest marine mammal teaching hospital, and a place that is “leading the field in ocean conservation through marine mammal rescue, veterinary medicine, science and education.”
Lastly, my wife and I happily support the institution that not only brought us together, but that provided me with the foundation I needed to embark on the career that today allows us assist so many worthy organizations: our alma mater, Northern Arizona University.
These days the world’s problems can feel overwhelming. And as individuals, we can only do so much. But by working with others — either directly, or by supporting an organization — we can have a surprising effect. As I can personally attest, helping others this way is not only good for them, it’s good for me too; suddenly the world’s problems don’t seem nearly so insurmountable.
Greg Wilson is the creator of Walking Redwood City, a blog inspired by his walks throughout Redwood City and adjacent communities. He can be reached at greg@walkingRedwoodCity.com. Follow Greg on Twitter @walkingRWC.
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Thanks for this Greg! Younger folks have taken up the "Me to We" challenge and there's plenty of generosity and public service spirit still out there. Don't know if you've ever read the story about Craig Kielburger, a 12 year old Canadian whose family had a morning ritual of reading the newspaper and each sharing something that they found interesting that day. One day he read about a child in India who had been assassinated because he had become a symbol against child slave labor in rug factories. Craig started an organization and raised incredible awareness about the issue and made a huge difference. Today he runs an organization that hosts annual "We Days" (moving from Me to We), a celebration of public service by young people around the world.
Lots of hope to celebrate and yes, some of us need a little nudge to hold the door open for our neighbors and DO something instead of just griping.
Hi, Greg
Thanks for an inspiring column.
Something as simple as holding a door for another person... Yes, as you wrote, it sometimes seems "many people abandoned the values they were brought up with and shifted their focus from 'we' to 'me.'" While I think nearly everyone was brought up to lend a hand to others, our fast paced and "get out of my way... I'm doing something important" lifestyle can shift our focus to "me." That can make something as simple as holding a door for another person become a thing of the past.
"Beware the barrenness of a busy life." - Socrates
A while back, some of the regular contributors to the DJ's comments section took pause from the daily trench warfare in these pages and exchanged the names of charities they support. Even though those readers (including me) disagree... sometimes vehemently... about things political... there was no disagreement that lending a hand to others is something we can and should do. And maybe it can start with "something as simple as holding a door for another person."
I've gotta plug one of my favorites. My wife and I support the Hilde Back Education Foundation which provides scholarships for kids in Kenya. High school is not free in Kenya, and the chance to earn a high school diploma can be life changing for the student and the student's family. Just yesterday, we received an update from the student we are helping. The writing was a tad stilted but her message came through loud and clear... thanks for believing in me.
I sure she holds doors open for others.
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